First you, Next others
If
you want happy life focus on the thoughts you think, not the thoughts about
others think about you. If you can satisfy with what you have and who you are that’s
the happiness. If we compare the happiness level of a beggar and a doctor, we
think doctors are living a happy life than beggars. Most of the time that prediction
can be true, but exceptions are there. There may be some beggars who satisfy
with what they have and who you are and try to accomplish a goal what he
desired. Also, there may be some doctors
who are not satisfy with their busy life style, or consider about what they don’t
have. If you practice your mind to stay in joyful at any circumstance, you are
the owner of happiness throughout your life.
Try to find yourself
first, next others. Today, people waste their time in vain due to unwanted
search of other’s life, but if you allocate this time for your personal
development, you are a winner. If you think other’s success, failures,
happiness or sorrow by neglecting yours, you will never be satisfied. If you
want to help others, first you have to be in a position or fully equipped with
to do so. First achieve your goals, next others. If you stop to help a friend
who felt down at a race, you will never win the race. First win the race, then
come back to help, but the friend is critically damaged and no one to help, you
can stop. Don’t worry you will get the return in future. That’s why happiness
depends on how you think, not who you are or what you have. If you lose
something because of your foolishness is your fault, but it happened due to
unavoidable circumstances, you are great, and you will never frustrate about
it.
Always remember your success is
more important than anyone else or anything. Many people think about other’s
work and other unnecessary things without looking at their personal success. First
of all, finish your task and attend other’s work next. Don’t postponed your day
to day important time line except it is an inevitable circumstance. If you give
your chance to another one, it is hard to expect he or she will achieve it or
he or she will give hand to you next. Why you can’t get the first chance and achieve
it? Then, you can give hand to others. Any one can change according to the
situation. Hence, give main priority to your success and create an environment to
help others. if you are not in a position to help others or you are not
satisfied with your present progress, the best thing you can do is giving priority
to you first and next give hand to others.
Focus on comments that you make
about others and the way you like them to be. Normally, you make comments like don’t
lie, don’t get angry, don’t kill animals, don’t talk nonsense, don’t engage in
sexual harassment, don’t steal, don’t use harsh word, don’t waste time, don’t give
up, don’t hurt others etc. firstly, search about you and try to get rid from
these don’ts. If you want to correct others, first of all, you have to be
corrected. Then, others comment about you as the way you like them to be. Hence,
first look at your side before look at other’s side. Success people always
compete with their self and continuously try to improve their self. Once they achieve
their targets, they love to see others follow him.
People believe helping others is
a worthy task. Indeed, it is, but if you help others by giving up your priorities
that help is going to be a disaster for you. Also, you can’t satisfy with the
help you made. Once you couldn’t achieve your goals. Ultimately, you curse them
stating I lost my life because e of you. Always, when you say yes to others double
check that you say no to yours. If you feel that you are going to lose something
because of others requests, first of all try to solve it. If you can’t find a
solution within a short time, it is better to reject it. That rejection can be
a short-term frustration for both you and requestee, but it is a long -term
success factor for you and your relationship. Unless it will be a short -term satisfaction
and a long- term frustration.
Create a goal that you believe,
you can achieve it, not others believe that you can achieve it. if you have a
doubt about your goals it is better to create one that you believe 100% that you
are going to achieve it. No one can create
goals for you. They can give only suggestions. People always change their goals
because of the opinions of others and by looking at the success of others. Different
people are capable of different capabilities. Identifying yours lies within you,
others can only suggest you. If you accept the suggestions without looking at
your capabilities and confidence, there is a high tendency of failing. If you
want to achieve a goal, hear your inner voice, not the voice of others. if you
are 100% sure about your accomplishment you will win, but if you have a doubt
you will fail.
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